Being a great texter is an amazing communication skill. Mastering the art of seducing women by texting is very useful. Reading people over text can be difficult but there are lots of ways to make it fun and flirty. You can always warm up your text messages without coming off weird or sleazy. Also, texting is a great way to test the waters to see where things may go. Learning how to seduce a woman by text message can also give you more dating confidence in general.
Remember that your main goal throughout this is in person interaction. You ultimately want to spend time with this person so keep that in mind. You are simply texting as a supplement to see her face to face. When a girl is texting with you, you should be able to make plans with her. Texting is one of the easiest ways to get a girl to fall for you because you have time to think and predict what she might say. There is a lot more room for creativity when seducing through text, but it is a gradual process.
You may only have a few messages before she decides whether or not she wants to see you again, so you need to make them count. If you do things correctly, you are sure to get a good response. You will want to make sure that you send her the right messages that gets you face to face with her and fast.
Transition The Conversation to a Meetup or Date
Girls want guys who are confident in themselves and able to make decisions so you can totally initiate and make the plans. Give her simple options and choices to solidify things quickly. You can easily do this by saying something like, “This conversation would be much better over a glass of wine or two.” This is a very important step because if you do not transition into meeting up with her, you run the risk of becoming her texting buddy and never getting to another level.
You don’t want to end up in the friend zone and kill your chances with her! If you send her a direct invite, you may want to consider including a challenge. For example “We should meet up for coffee…only if…you can keep your hands to yourself.” Adding this playful qualification will make her want to see you even more. This is a cool way to challenge her and give her some of your flirtatious energy.
When you occasionally put her on the spot, you allow her to put in the effort and become invested. You should show your personality and make things fun and engaging so that you can make plans with her. You want her to know that you are interested in her, as well as fun and playful.
Decode The Text Messages
You need to know the deeper meaning behind her messages and how to respond to them. Things can be really subtle and vague over texts, so you need to know how to read between the lines. If she gives you a lot of excuses, and doesn’t show much interest in making plans, then she is probably not into you. A woman will go out with you if she is attracted and interested in you. Remember that just because a girl is nice to you, does not mean that she is interested in you.
Don’t Wait To Text Her
Once she gives you her number, you should try to text her fairly soon after. Chances are, that if she is a beautiful girl that gave you her number, then she is probably giving her number to other guys as well. So you want to make sure that you start communicating soon. If you let too much time pass, the attraction will decrease and she may lose interest. Fast contact is best, so don’t risk the wait! This is the perfect time to strike while the iron is hot and get things going. It is also a good idea for you to initiate things so that you can set the tone of the conversation. You’ll have a lot more control, and you can allow her to warm up to you a bit.
Build Intrigue When Texting Her
Say something like “you’ll never guess what I’m doing right now…” or “something just reminded me of you…” to get the conversation going. She will love that you are showing interest in her. The point is to get her to respond, so try to get creative. When you are predictable you are boring so put some thought into this.
A great way to do this is to compliment her. Let her know how hot you think she is or let her know that you can’t wait to see her. You should also remind her of shared memories that the two of you have together. You want her to remember and associate you with wonderful thoughts. Remind her of how great she looked the last time you saw her, or how you love the cute sound of her laugh.
This will let her know that you enjoy her company, and want to spend time with her. This will also give her the opportunity to respond with her shared memories as well. You should not be afraid to express your emotions and let her know that she is on your mind. This will, in turn, make her think about you, which builds even more anticipation and you both will be excited to see each other. Being curious and vulnerable is what it is all about.
Managing Silence Over Texting
You will want to make note of any time she changes the subject or goes quiet for a while. If she is being silent, you need to take action to break the ice a bit. When you experience silence you should send her a funny but open-ended message that does not require a response. That way she knows that you are still there and it is not a big deal if you don’t get a response. Pictures and memes are great for this type of thing. And, if there is some relevance involved that would be even better. So if you get a response, that is great but if you don’t, then at least you shared something cool with her.
Follow Up On Plans Through Text
Ideally, you should text her on the same day that you are planning on hanging out with her. This will solidify things and let her know that you are looking forward to seeing her. Send her a message that says something along the lines of “I hope that you are excited, tonight will be full of surprises!” Not only will this get her pumped but curious about the night. When you spark her FOMO she will be very interested in what could be in store. You certainly do not want her to wonder whether or not the plans are still on, so doing this will give her confirmation. If she does not hear from you, then she may assume that you forgot or have other plans.
Teasing and Flirty Banter
This works great over text because it is isolated and you don’t get distracted by other things like body language. As long as you get the words right this can be really easy. Show her that you are multidimensional by sharing different sides of your personality.
Use her name or nickname frequently throughout the conversations. The reason for this is that you don’t want to come off as random. The messages should feel unique and tailored perfectly for her. You certainly do not want her to feel that she is just another girl on your huge list of women that you’ve picked up.
Give Her Compliments But Don’t Go Overboard
Make sure that the compliment is detailed and specific to her. That way she knows that you are paying attention and in the end, this will get you a long way. Try to give her a compliment about something other than her physical appearance so that she doesn’t think that you just want to get into her pants.
Women want to feel special and not idolized. If she responds well to your compliments, you should feel confident and courageous to send her a few more here and there. Women are more attracted to men that pay attention to them, so make her feel good with some kind words.
Listen To Her and Be Engaged
If the messages get really long or she ends up venting, then use this opportunity to get closer to her. You may end up really turning her on over your chats. Some girls are more open over texts because a lot of the pressure is off. Let her open up to you so that she becomes more and more comfortable.
With these tips, you should have no problem standing out as the ultimate seductive texter. You have the power to build amazing intrigue with girls that you are texting. Let your thumbs do the flirting for you.