One of the most satisfying aspects of love making is knowing that you are able to satisfy your partner.  Some women can orgasm extremely fast (about one minute), faster than most men in fact.  But, most women can take anywhere from 15-20 minutes to reach orgasm!  As a man, it is critical for you to know how to last longer in bed.

How Long Should a Guy Last in Bed?

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But here is the deal. Most men can only last anywhere between 2 and 7 minutes.  So if you do the math, the guys are falling short of being able to make their woman cum most of the time.  Of course there are other ways to make your woman orgasm other than penetration, but that’s not what we are talking about today.  Let’s take a look at some ways how to last longer in bed.  And ladies, this article is for you too!  If you love your man, but he is not able to take it to finish line in the bedroom, then try some of these tips below with your man.  You don’t have to tell him about it, just make a suggestion, and if he loves you and wants to give you pleasure, he will be happy to try one of these out!  Here are 8 ways on how to last longer in bed tonight.

Slow Down!

If you know that you tend to cum early, then get her all fired up first!  Give her some oral sex, whip out a vibrator, push her to the edge, and then start with penetration.  If you know your partner, and you time it right, you can climax together.  This is one of the most satisfying sexual experiences, when you both are feeling that ecstasy together. This strategy will not work all the time, especially if she wants a quickie. But the use this is a bridge to learning some other methods mentioned here.

Pull Out

When you are in middle of sex and it seems like you are getting close, pull out!  Why pull out?  Because by doing this, you can put your attention into another arena of sex.  After you pull out, start making out with her while rubbing her clit.  Give yourself a few minutes to cool down.  This move will show her you are in control (which women love) at the same time giving you a chance at more thrusting. If you can manage to do this one gracefully, it will allow you to build your stamina, and over time, you will naturally be able to start lasting longer in bed.

Use a Condom

This might not be the most popular suggestion, but depending on your relationship status, you should be doing this anyway!  Most condoms have a chemical called Benzocaine in them.  It’s a very mild anesthetic that can make your member a bit numb, and help you delay orgasm.  A lot of guys say sex with condoms does not feel as good, and they may be right.  But if you are reading this, then it’s probably feeling a little too good for you, and you may want to give this one a try 😉  These are some very good ones below.

Numb It!

Sort of related to the last one, but if you really don’t want to use a condom (maybe you are in committed relationship or are allergic), then you can try numbing it.  There is a popular product on the market that is highly recommended by Urologists called Promescent.  It’s just a little spray bottle and you put a little bit on the tip of your penis, and you should have no problem going the distance. This to me, is more of a “band-aid” method of fixing the issue. Eventually, you still want to practice methods like pulling out in order to build your natural staying power.

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Learn PC exercises

You might have heard of these exercises before.  The reason they are so popular is because they work!  There is a lot of misinformation out there so let’s keep it simple.  Next time you have to take a leak, try starting and stopping your stream twice.  Once you do this, you know where your PC muscles are.  After you figure out how to use these muscles, start by flexing them, and holding for 10 seconds at a time.  If you do this at least 5 times throughout the day, you will build more stamina and learn how to control your premature ejaculation and how to last longer in bed. This is a great natural method to start lasting longer in bed.  For more info on how to do Kegel’s check out:

Practice Edging

If you have never heard of this term, don’t worry, it’s also very simple to learn.  Next time you jerk off, bring yourself to the point where you almost cum.  Stop for about 10-15 seconds, then resume the jerking.  Do this 2 or 3 times, where you bring yourself to the edge, but don’t go over the edge.  Theres 2 things that will happen here. 1.  You will be teaching yourself to last longer.  2.  And this is the bonus factor (especially if you have been practicing the PC exercises), you will have a much more intense orgasm when you do cum. This might even lead to you having the ability to stay hard after cumming. You will thank me for this one later.

Breathe!

This one might be difficult, especially while having sex.  Breathing is something we all do without thinking about it, but in this case, it’s something you want to be thinking about if you’re trying to make the moment last more than a few minutes.  Having sex with a beautiful woman can make even the manliest men nervous (even if they don’t admit it).  But controlling your breathing, and trying to “relax” during sex, can really go a long way in teaching you how to last longer in bed.

Stop Thinking about It!

The last thing you want to do is leave your partner yearning for more in the bedroom.  However, if you are always focused on how fast you’re gonna blow and are self-conscious about it, then this will intensify the anxiety and feeling that you will cum early.  Instead, shift your mental focus to her pleasure.  Start thinking about what you can do right now, using these tips above to make her feel good, and stop thinking about your pleasure for a minute.  You’d be surprised on how just changing your mentality about cuming too early, can help you last longer in bed. It may even also give you more dating confidence in general.

When you give these methods a try, you should start seeing improvement very early on.  Just start off with one or two of these tips.  Don’t overwhelm yourself.  Sex is supposed to be fun.  The last thing you want do do suck all the pleasure out of nature’s most pleasurable act.  The truth is, all of these methods will help you last longer.  Just find the one that works for you, and stick with it!

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